The rapid adoption of social media into our society has had a profound and lasting impact, often in very negative ways. The distraction of these devices, and their ability to move us towards radicalized and polarized belief structures isn’t an accident, but rather a deliberate part of the design by engineers looking to control our attention. At this critical juncture of mass adoption of these technologies, it’s important to pause and evaluate their impact on our society. We must work with developers to restructure these tools in more value-conscious ways that uphold our privacy, foster meaningful connections, and further harness our capacity for deep work. Changes that would yield these results include time limits and boundaries, decentralization of power, a values based approach and structure to encourage learning. We also must alter our own attitudes and behaviors within social media spaces, setting our own limits, approaching these tools with intention, and practicing positive digital citizenship. With these changes to both the structure of social media as well as our practices and behaviors, we can harness the power and potential of these tools, without experiencing extensive detrimental side effects on our relationships and our society.